Relationships Have Stages ♥

STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Honeymoon Stage

Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.

*If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better.

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STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road
Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another.

*If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.

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STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain
You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself.

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.

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STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road
1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last.

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved.”

Puppy love!

I'm going to share my experience of being in love during my secondary school time! When I was in Form Two, I met this amazing girl, and she was in Form One. She did make my heart pounded so fast that I cant even control it. The story began when I saw this girl for the first time at SALC ( For those who don't know the place, it is a place similar to a library at my school), I knew I got attracted by her with no reason. I kept asking myself, why am I so nervous when I met her for the first time, weird huh! Then the day after, I tried to approach her, wanted to know more about her, and I did such a silly thing that I even lied to my parents that I have an extra class in the morning ( at that time, my class started in the afternoon session), just to see her in SALC( she is the librarian for SALC)! What I did was just to see her, and I got no courage to talk to her. Until one day, after school classes finished at 6pm, I waited for my school bus to fetch me back home, and while waiting, I saw her waiting for her transport just outside the school entrance. My heart pounded fast again, "Should I go and talk to her?", I kept asking myself. Again, I was not brave enough to talk to her, as she doesn't know me yet. It was pretty obvious if I went to talk to her so suddenly. Then my bus finally came, and I entered the bus. And while the bus was passing by her, I suddenly waved at her, she saw me with weird looks. So this is the start! I started to know her more when I finally approach her the next day at SALC. I started talking to her, and she replied me with her cute smile..OH~my heart melted! Then day by day, I was getting brave to talk to her. And we finally became friends! At that time, I think I am the happiest person on Earth! Every day, after school, I waved at her from my bus when my bus passed by her. She replied me with a wave and her smile, wow so sweet! But this lasted for only a year, when she entered Form 2, she has a boyfriend. When I knew about it, my heart was so hurt as if a knife just pierced through it. But I never give up, I still looked for her in SALC as usual, chatting with her and laughed together. Until her boyfriend be a SALC librarian, just for her, I cant talk to her that often anymore. I felt uneasy, I cant sleep well every night, kept thinking of her. The condition became worse when I heard from my friend that she finally kissed her boyfriend. I cried alone at the room every night. Until the end of the year, just after our school final exam, she finally came to me, giving me an invitation card. I was invited to her house, and it's not a good news, because it is for her farewell party. She's moving to KL with her family, and will never return already! During the same day, I've decided to buy a present for her after thinking for so long. It was just a cute teddy bear. That night, as I entered her house, I saw her smiling happily, inviting me into her house, and I handed the present to her. Then we did have fun with other friends who were also invited, playing hide and seek, taking photographs, and watching movie at the living room. I felt happy and sad at the same time. Till before going back to my home, I finally asked for her phone number, in which I always wanted to ask for. She gave me her phone number, and once I reached back home, I called her, and said goodbye to her. She even thanked me for my present and she liked it! That time I only can contact her through her phone number as there are no Facebook and Friendster yet! All I can remember is that, I sms her every night, saying good night to her for about 2 years. Then I stopped, because I've finally given up. It's impossible to love someone whom I cant meet for long time. This is the end of my story. I've kept it in my heart for years and it's time for me to share this amazing story of mine to everyone!