Relationships Have Stages ♥

STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Honeymoon Stage

Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.

*If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better.

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STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road
Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another.

*If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.

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STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain
You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself.

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.

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STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road
1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last.

*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved.”

Puppy love!

I'm going to share my experience of being in love during my secondary school time! When I was in Form Two, I met this amazing girl, and she was in Form One. She did make my heart pounded so fast that I cant even control it. The story began when I saw this girl for the first time at SALC ( For those who don't know the place, it is a place similar to a library at my school), I knew I got attracted by her with no reason. I kept asking myself, why am I so nervous when I met her for the first time, weird huh! Then the day after, I tried to approach her, wanted to know more about her, and I did such a silly thing that I even lied to my parents that I have an extra class in the morning ( at that time, my class started in the afternoon session), just to see her in SALC( she is the librarian for SALC)! What I did was just to see her, and I got no courage to talk to her. Until one day, after school classes finished at 6pm, I waited for my school bus to fetch me back home, and while waiting, I saw her waiting for her transport just outside the school entrance. My heart pounded fast again, "Should I go and talk to her?", I kept asking myself. Again, I was not brave enough to talk to her, as she doesn't know me yet. It was pretty obvious if I went to talk to her so suddenly. Then my bus finally came, and I entered the bus. And while the bus was passing by her, I suddenly waved at her, she saw me with weird looks. So this is the start! I started to know her more when I finally approach her the next day at SALC. I started talking to her, and she replied me with her cute smile..OH~my heart melted! Then day by day, I was getting brave to talk to her. And we finally became friends! At that time, I think I am the happiest person on Earth! Every day, after school, I waved at her from my bus when my bus passed by her. She replied me with a wave and her smile, wow so sweet! But this lasted for only a year, when she entered Form 2, she has a boyfriend. When I knew about it, my heart was so hurt as if a knife just pierced through it. But I never give up, I still looked for her in SALC as usual, chatting with her and laughed together. Until her boyfriend be a SALC librarian, just for her, I cant talk to her that often anymore. I felt uneasy, I cant sleep well every night, kept thinking of her. The condition became worse when I heard from my friend that she finally kissed her boyfriend. I cried alone at the room every night. Until the end of the year, just after our school final exam, she finally came to me, giving me an invitation card. I was invited to her house, and it's not a good news, because it is for her farewell party. She's moving to KL with her family, and will never return already! During the same day, I've decided to buy a present for her after thinking for so long. It was just a cute teddy bear. That night, as I entered her house, I saw her smiling happily, inviting me into her house, and I handed the present to her. Then we did have fun with other friends who were also invited, playing hide and seek, taking photographs, and watching movie at the living room. I felt happy and sad at the same time. Till before going back to my home, I finally asked for her phone number, in which I always wanted to ask for. She gave me her phone number, and once I reached back home, I called her, and said goodbye to her. She even thanked me for my present and she liked it! That time I only can contact her through her phone number as there are no Facebook and Friendster yet! All I can remember is that, I sms her every night, saying good night to her for about 2 years. Then I stopped, because I've finally given up. It's impossible to love someone whom I cant meet for long time. This is the end of my story. I've kept it in my heart for years and it's time for me to share this amazing story of mine to everyone!

L.O.V.E

I think everyone's crazy about this matter, LOVE, the most powerful word that can make us happy throughout our life. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. As adolescents or young adults, most of us sometimes are desperate for love. The only thing is that, we cannot simply seek love from someone whom we don't love. I've seen many of these cases during my secondary school. It's not wrong to have a crush on someone, but then CRUSH is not LOVE. Many of my friends had their first love occupied during secondary school times, but what I thought is that, love won't bloom during that moment.

Here's my opinion about this:
During secondary school,
1) we tend to try new things out of curiosity, including looking someone for a date.
2) we tend to show off that we are actually attached, which turned out to be puppy love.
3) we tend to hurt other person's feelings when we broke up with him/her.
( That is why I don't even attempt to seek for love during secondary school) ^^

But when we reached the age of 19 and above, we get to understand the real meaning of love. We enjoyed love, happy being in love to someone special. We cared for each other, and it is the most wonderful moment in our life. When we keep thinking someone we love, we can feel happiness, the happiness that I mentioned is extraordinarily different, yet interesting.

Well, when you love that person, you have to fight for him/her. Get the love that you want. There might be many obstacles in life, especially loving someone. You might think that the person's parents do not let you both to be together, or that person just want to concentrate in his/her studies. Or sometimes, religion might become the barrier too. I know, it's hard to fight for this, but nothing is impossible!

However, love kills too! The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else. The feeling of sadness can even makes you think of committing suicide. Or when you saw him/her with other partner in front of you, you'll feel very emotionally unstable. So, before this happens, make her of him to be happy with you, do not let others to take him/her away from you, you have to fight for love, not just let him/her go. Well, maybe for others, they might think of the meaning of love in different ways, but I can only tell that loving someone isn't easy. I wish everyone who read this will really think of how to face the problem while loving someone, not avoid it because it is not going to help, instead worsening it!

If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater.

What is L.O.V.E?

This is the first time of my life experiencing how LOVE works..

All this long, my friends kept asking me whether i'm attached, and when i answered them,''I'm still single", their surprised expression made me feel uneasy.

Why everyone keeps thinking that I already have a girlfriend? Nonsense!

I never have a girlfriend before even during my secondary school days.

Even few of my friends purposely introduced girls to me, and we ended up as normal friends.

Why don't I look for one instead?

Okay, I admit there are few girls like me a lot, they even did something that makes me feel touched, but among them, whom should I choose? Which type of girls I like? Is the girl's physical appearance and looks are really important for me?

If I have a girlfriend, is it because I love her? If yes, how deep? When I saw her at anywhere, how do I feel? Happy or just normal? Well, I start experiencing this kind of thing when I met a girl whom I started to be interested of.

Of course, I wont write the answer here, because whether I love her or not, I'm not sure. 

How about others who admitted that they like me? I didn't reject them as well. Aishhh! Headache!

But then if I have a girlfriend, if I found out that we're not actually match, should I break up with her? I'm not sure. I guess that I'm not ready for the whole process yet. But then I really hope I can find a person who really can be with me whenever and wherever I go..

Blood Donation Campaign, One Drop One Hope.

 

It was a pleasant Saturday morning, I got up from my bed at 7am. Yeah, it was a little too early for me to wake up on weekends. But this time, there is a reason I woke up early, I joined my university's Leo Club in organising a blood donation campaign at a mall in Sungai Petani town. There were about 33 volunteers joined to help up during the campaign. And it was really a successful campaign that the number of people donating their blood exceeds the targeted number! I can't believe there are many people actually still care and are willing to do something for the community by donating their blood. Previously, if I did not join to assist in this campaign, I would not know the importance of  blood donation. And that's the reason why I wrote about blood donation in my blog. This event eventually create awareness among the people that donating blood can save a life! Okay, as a Christian, do you want to serve the Lord? If yes, how? Well, I can say by helping up in charity work such as blood donation and also donate blood is one of the way you can do on behalf of God! We all know our limitation to save others life, but it is not impossible. By just simply donate blood of yours, you can save a person who might be dying of loss of excessive blood in an accident. It is a good thing if you know that your blood can make people survive from walking through their way to death. As the saying says, "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give", I am prepared to help!^^

The Fear To Overcome Fear!! Back To Campus!!

Trip to the Pearl of the Orient!

Ryokan Hotel! A historical-like building!

During this Raya holidays, I had the chance to go for a trip to Penang AGAIN! Usually, I joined my group of friends whom I always used to be with for a trip to this wonderful island. However, this time all of my friends planned to spend their holidays with their family at home. And so, I am alone again, fortunately, God doesn't want me to be alone, and He encourage me to make new friends and even let me to join them for a trip! Anyway, I knew them in the church . It was an amazing and enjoyable trip, and I will never forget this moment!

We went to Penang for 3 days and 2 nights. And we stayed at Ryokan Hotel, which is a place that most of the Penang citizens are not aware of its existence! I can say that only tourists from overseas know this hotel, and I tell you, it is not an ordinary hotel. This hotel is built with Japanese concept, you can see it by its design and style! This hotel has dorm concept as well and believe it or not, there are no differences when staying in my university's hostel. The room is occupied with 4 double decker beds and 4 cupboards for us to keep our bags. And we share our bathrooms with other guests. The most interesting part is that I get to know few tourists from England, China and Taiwan! All the guests are from overseas, and we are the only local who stayed there. "Ahhhh, I've reached somewhere I am not belong to!"^^

                                                                        Day 1:

This photo was taken outside Penang Times Square^^

After unpack our stuff in the hotel, we started our stroll around Komtar, and we saw a stall which sell Penang's famous mouth-watering Cendol and Ice Kacang at a corner of a row of old shops, and it is very cheap yet delicious! Then, we went to Prangin Mall for shopping, and I bought 2 T-shirts with affordable price. We spent about half a day shopping there. Then we went to Macalister Road for dinner, of course, we won't miss Penang's Char Kuey Teow and "Oh Jien" (fried oyster with egg) as well! Then after dinner, we went back to hotel and enjoyed the night there!

Day 2:

A photo taken in Gurney Plaza of Penang^^

Another day came, the weather was humid and the Sun was not blazing hot with little rain. It was the most suitable temperature where we can walk around without sweating. We went to Queensbay Mall on the second day, and we took the whole day shopping! There were a variety of delicious food at the food court which we could not miss! We explored every single shop present at the mall, and you know, it was a very exciting experience! Then, around 7:30pm, we headed to Gurney Plaza. We walked around and took our Japanese dinner there. It seemed that we did not buy anything, but we enjoyed walking around the mall and looking at things! Before 10:30pm, we went back to our hotel. It was a tiring day though!

 

 

 

Day 3:

Finally, the last day in Penang, we spent our time to Penang Times Square for a stroll and walked along the row of shops outside the buildings. There I bought few boxes of Penang's famous Tambun biscuits which every tourists can't miss to buy it! Then around 7pm, after we had our dinner at the Red Dragon Restaurant which is located just few miles from our hotel, we decided to go back. We rode a ferry to Butterworth and went back to Sungai Petani by bus, same as what we did when we were heading to Penang! We reached AIMST around 10PM. It was tiring but a nice trip indeed! I would like to go for a trip like this again with them in the future!

Although there are some experiences which I didn't share in here, but I can say that this trip not only can bridge our friendship gap closer, I can make new friends as well! The time spent during the trip is not wasted, it was fun and breathtaking! ^^